David and I had an argument tonight. Our most intense ever.

There were locked doors, threats to break the door down, and threats to leave the house until morning.

As serious as it sounds, the silly thing is that the door only stayed locked for a few seconds, and he only went so far as to put his jacket on as if he was leaving.

So even though David was moderately angry with me - the angriest he's ever been - we still argued in our usual style. Our style being that I get mad to the point of being sad, and he concedes because he hates to see me sad and because I'm right.

We've only had a handful of arguments in our 4 years together. This is if you define argument as both parties raising their voice in anger. Otherwise, it's usually me getting angry with him. I give myself credit for toning down the bitchiness over the past couple years. I recognize if I'm upset at something trivial, but I struggle with switching off the anger on command. It lingers even after I acknowledge that I shouldn't be upset and I'm acting childish. But I'm getting better...these episodes are significantly less frequent now.

We have a rule in our relationship: we can't go to bed mad at one another. (inspired by the Ne-yo song) It's a great rule. A very smart rule. It defines the baseline of our relationship. At the end of the day, everyday, we will always reconnect. We will always close whatever distance is between us. We do this sooner rather than later if there is a rift between us. I don't think we've had a "heated discussion" for more than a couple hours.

We make up pretty quickly.

Going on 10 months of marriage here, and it hasn't been too difficult. We can easily handle occasional "heated discussions" that only last at most 1-2 hours. We're always back to baseline or we even develop a stronger bond afterwards. It makes me very confident about my decision to have married him.